I don’t even want to think about how many hours of my life have been lost to over-thinking, analyzing the pointless, and of course, dwelling on the past. There’s really no benefit to self inflicting anxiety and fixating on things that can’t change — all you’ll really achieve is killing your own happiness, and who wants to do that? Not this girl. Obviously, I’m all Namaste, betches.
I can’t say that I’ve come remotely close to mastering those occasional moments of mental spiraling, or that I’ve evolved to a place of calm wisdom, but I’ve gotten better. I’ve taken more of a ‘breathe in, breathe out, take a walk, don’t react and find some internal mantra of mature rationale, no matter how far down you have to dig to find it’ approach to getting to the other side.
You’ll win some, and you’ll still lose some, but remembering that each moment you waste on worry and not creating some sort of positive change (or just simple mental silence) is a moment lost. And that usually brings a little rationale to the situation, however begrudgingly I accept my own advice.
The truth is, we usually struggle with the same issues (constantly re-inventing themselves) and get stuck in our own cycles of overthinking and repetition. At the end of the day we just need to give ourselves a break. Let your hair down; don’t sweat the small stuff (but maybe actually sweat it out); simply live and allow yourself to be happy.
Here are my top five rules, and if I ever fully master them, I’ll let you know, but they’re great for a re-focus, or maybe a laugh:
1) If you want to have ice cream, have a damn ice cream. It’s delicious happy food. (just maybe don’t have it for every meal…)
2) You’re never too old for a mental health day. Take one. Or two. And don’t let anyone take that time from you.
3) Take time to celebrate the small victories, a victory of any size is worth a little pause.
4) Don’t question your abilities. Consider your course, evaluate your approach, and maybe recognize your weaknesses, but don’t ever cheapen your strengths.
It would be impossible to put into words just how amazing the experience of opening MADabolic Cville, and mostly growing [with] this community, has been. We opened with new programming and a logo, and that’s about it. Over the last year we have built a (small, but mighty) machine that runs partially on our developed structure and mostly on the energy, humor, and incredible support of the clients (now friends) that walked through the doors and brought this concept to life.
The foundation, for me, definitely comes from my business partners. If there’s one thing that I’ve learned it’s the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people; the educated challengers, the perpetual learners, and the people who push you to be unhappy with the status quo. They’re the people that share not only your vision and goals, but also the drive, passion, and business acumen that actually makes those goals attainable — and they would be doing it even if you weren’t there. The truth is, you really are only as strong as your weakest link, and that’s always the biggest risk to any effort, large or small, entrepreneurial or corporate.
I’m so grateful for the strengths of my business partners. The different perspectives, experiences, and business maturity that I get to learn from and collaborate with every day are unparalleled. There’s a contagious enthusiasm as we run our businesses and plan for whatever it is we decide to do next — because I know that it will be the enemy of our discontent, and the byproduct of our learned successes and failures. I’m a complete believer in strengths based architecture and professional development in establishing high performance teams — all of which takes some level of intention and accuracy when constructing, but I’ll be the first to admit that I got really freaking lucky when I stumbled upon these amazing individuals. This is not normal, and I know it.
That’s what fills me up every day, it drives me, and fuels higher performance levels from me in my ‘real’ job, these businesses, and my own training (well, that, and all of the amazing people that bring our concepts to life). The fitness piece of what we do is just the hook. It’s a passion for all of us, sure, and it’s what gets people in the doors, but at the end of the day this is a business, just like any other, and a passion for the product doesn’t make the machine function. Without the insatiable energy and enthusiasm that our communities fill our spaces with every day, I don’t know if the rest of it would seem as worth it. While it’s critical to build the right management team, part of surrounding yourself with the right people includes developing strong client relationships, and reciprocating on the value that is provided from both. The shared experience and the dual benefit — that’s the power of community — and it’s not a one way street.
That’s what we’ve found to be the beautiful reality in Charlottesville over the last year (and let’s be real, Charleston, you’re right on our heels already). Once again I feel like we already won life with our community alone, and I so appreciate it. Each small business venture brings a new perspective (this is my 9th and counting) and I couldn’t be happier with what has been built here. Charlottesville is my heart, it’s my own personal ‘Best of,’ and it’s every sweet niche pulls on my heartstrings.
This week Cville Weekly announced the winners of it’s ‘Best of’ awards, an award that simultaneously means nothing and everything in this small town, and we were lucky enough to win Best Niche Gym. The winners just so happened to be announced and featured the same week we are celebrating one year of business, which just made the celebration all the more meaningful.
So, to make a long story longer, thank you Charlottesville and all of our MAD clients for giving us all the love you have, and a big thank you to my business partners for not only buying into the idea of bringing an unknown concept to such a crazy small town, but also for hanging in through chaos, sharing your experiences, and allowing me to leverage all of your strengths to navigate what has certainly been a year of unknowns.